How many times is ideal for couples to make love weekly?

A man got up, looking very serious. “I’m happy we are talking about this issue today because -” he paused for effect to get everyone’s attention, “the truth is that my wife and I have been struggling in this area for some time and I’m afraid it might get out of hand. I love my wife. I want her. Everything is okay but … this.” He raised a finger up. “And this is a very important part of our marriage. I’m concerned. The way she behaves when I want her … you’d be surprised. It’s as if I’m dirty and irresponsible. In fact, there were times I asked myself if something was wrong with me.”
Some of the people laughed.
“I’m serious.” The man said. “I feel frustrated. I feel rejected.”
Some men nodded their heads to show understanding.
His wife looked shocked.

“I mean … is there anyone sharing my experience? Has anybody here ever been there?” the man looked round at the men.
Five men raised their hands …
… A woman raised her hand and got up. “My case is different. It’s my husband who has lost interest in sex. I don’t know what we can do about that. My needs are not being met.”
The people shouted and laughed.
The woman continued, laughing. “I want us to tackle this issue as well. My husband does not believe in kissing … he says it makes him feel like throwing up, too much saliva and so on.”
A man exclaimed. “Oh my God!”
All of them laughed again.
Still laughing, she said, “In fact, we stopped kissing a long time ago. So, it’s not only about a man’s needs, a woman’s needs may also not be met.”
One of the men asked her husband, “What do you have to say for yourself?”
He laughed as he got up.“There’s no cause for alarm. It’s just that in recent times, I’ve been under a considerable amount of pressure and I just don’t feel like it.
(Excerpts from the novel OH BABY!)
One of the questions I’m often asked by married couples at marriage seminars is “How often or how many times in a week should married couples make love?”
As I pointed out in the novel Oh Baby, giving excuses when it comes to sex is not only a woman’s thing, some men also give excuses. And as I have said a number of times before and wrote in the novel, sex was God’s idea, not a man’s or satan’s idea, even though some people because of their misunderstanding of God’s purpose for sex have perverted, commercialized and even redefined it to suit their purpose. Sex is good and right but only in marriage. It is not dirty, it is an important part of marriage, it is biblical. Outside marriage or before marriage, it is wrong and destructive and could lead to very serious problems.
To get the correct answer to this question, we need to turn to the word of God. The Bible doesn’t say the number of times a married couple should have sex in a week but it does say that couples should come together regularly (have sex) and that if they will not have sex for a reason, it should be by agreement.
2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1Corinthians 7:2,3,5)
These verses are saying, “Don’t forgo sex! Continue to have sexual relations with your spouse! Satisfy your spouse!” In other words, a spouse has sexual responsibilities or duties in marriage. (verse 3) If a person does not want sex, then the person should not go into marriage, when you get married, you have signed up for sex. Sex in marriage should be regular; staying away from sex should not be regular, it has to be agreed upon by the couple involved and should be for a short time.

The Bible also makes us know that our bodies belong to our spouses.
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. (1Corinthians 7:4)
The woman’s body does not belong to her alone but to her husband also, and vice-versa. This tells us that sex should not be given by a spouse as a reward or bribe, neither should it be withheld to punish a spouse.
In love-making, communication, love and compromise are important. If one spouse wants sex, the other spouse should yield as pointed out in verse 4, and if for a good reason one spouse does not want it, the other spouse should understand and yield, but of course, again, abstaining should be for a short time so that they don’t open their marriage to satan.
Protect your marriage. Temptations can come in as a result of lack of sex or not enough sex, sexual frustrations and hurt feelings. To keep temptations and immoralities of all kinds away, God created marriage, where a man will have his own wife, a woman will have her own husband, have regular sex and fulfill their sexual desires. (1Corinthians 7:2)

I asked some people how often they think married couples should make love in a week. Some said everyday. (As you must have guessed, most of these people were men) People said different things but most of them thought two to four times should be fine. The simple truth is “The more regularly a married couple makes love, the stronger their marriage tie.” Regular sex brings joy, confidence, intimacy and a connection between a man and his wife. A good sex life can hold a marriage together. And so, how many times? Let it be to you according to your faith!

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