Loving a woman better. chapter1

From time immemorial, men have fought wars, waged battles all for the money,power and exotic women.

We all want to shower our woman with gifts, give them deposits on their accounts and be the one they yearn for-while all of this will make a women respect and admire you…yet we still wonder sometimes

Does she really love me?

Am I the only one she got?

We all want our woman to be our everything, just like Patoranking sang in his current hit single “my woman, my everything”…but are you her everything?

While making a woman love you might varies, based on factors we won’t be discussing here,  there are some certain things that will make a woman love you better.

     

    

   (1)   Give her good quality time 
We all can be unavoidably absent sometimes, yet when we find time to be with our loved ones, it    should be quality time. Quality time means no distractions, no pinging’s, just you and your woman at unity and one with the universe. Use this time to conversate, relate  and stimulate. Talk about things you both desire, laugh, open up to her to see your sensitivity. When you talk, gaze into her eyes and make her feel beautiful. Every  Woman want to feel like the  “one”, that special one you can’t live without

(2)   Tell her about your plans, make it clear enough for her

Even when a woman loves you, there is a standard she cannot go below. In some cases a woman can suspend her love for you when she sees you cannot give her the type of life she desires.

It is better to make her understand from the start how things are, and state your plans and how you want to go about reaching them. If she does not clearly understand your plans, she will not know where to fit herself in your life and future- this certainly will bring about draw backs.

 

(3)   When you are alone with your woman, get up close

Modern day women are free, they want to express and feel love. Time have changed, if you don’t make your women feel love and excited she definitely will want to look for it elsewhere, even if she does not-she certainly is not satisfied.

Even when she acts like she is not in the mood, it is your duty to put her in the mood. Set the mood right, prepare her a nice dish, get some chocolates, good fruit wine and soothing music.

Try to find out her “keys” and turn her on.

Seems some modern men have not discovered the importance of romance and  sex for the modern woman. In todays world we are bombarded by DSTV and internet, telemundo and so many love series, sexual scenes are displayed across our faces each day, naturally we are driven by what we see, what is prevalent around us will most likely influence us…hence it is natural for the woman to be more sexually inclined.

Every woman will of course try to show modesty, it is your duty to break the ice, and make her melt in the ocean of your loving.

I need to go for a walk now, we will continue this wonderful discussion in our next post.

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Keep the fire burning.

Dr Rocs.

Protect your child from sexual predators, pay attention to your children.

Hello friends and followers, hope this month of July brought good tidings and good health to you and your loved ones.

The issue of "cradle robbers" and sexual predators in our society is taking a huge dimension.

Some followers of this blog shared their experiences, they asked that their identities be protected.

Mrs Alabi(not real name) is a happy mother of two twin girls, she stays in a quiet neighborhood around Obalende Lagos, Mrs Alabi works as a nurse, and her husband is an offshore worker who is hardly around-hence the family decided to bring a nephew to live with them to take care of the house and kids in their absence.

Things have been going well,with no issues till when the girls turned 5 years old,at first she noticed the way the girls always touch their privates, she thought it was weird,but didn't really give it second thoughts.

One day when she was on leave and was bathing them, she noticed one of her daughters rubbing her Vagina, she was alarmed and smacked her so hard, the daughter screamed "mommy why are you beating me, uncle Taiwo always rubs it for us" the mom was alarmed- she quickly called her husband who took permission and rushed back home the next day, when they confronted him, he denied- it took the intervention of an elder in the community who threatened to involve a spiritualist so he swear an oath, this is when Taiwo broke down and confessed, he has been defiling these kids since they turned 4yrs old-its just sad the mom and dad were not paying enough attention.

so sad....

please here are guidelines to help you protect your child from sexual predators;
 (1) Always talk to your children, instruct them not to allow anyone touch their private parts and to tell you when anyone does.

(2) Always be around to watch your kids grow each day, never be too busy not to create time for your kids.

(3) Give your kids audience whenever they want to speak to you, be easily approachable- some parents shun their kids and treat them like pests, this will make your kids afraid to approach you for any issue they are dealing with. kids are smarter than we think,listen to them-and watch their body movements around relatives and neighbors.

Dear followers, and readers we will keep posting more tips and stories on this series, this is a serious issue on our society-kindly send us your comments and contributions on what you feel about the prevalence of "cradle robbers" and child molesters in our society.

Pls send your comments and stories to lekkidatingandsex@yahoo.com

How many times is ideal for couples to make love weekly?

A man got up, looking very serious. “I’m happy we are talking about this issue today because -” he paused for effect to get everyone’s attention, “the truth is that my wife and I have been struggling in this area for some time and I’m afraid it might get out of hand. I love my wife. I want her. Everything is okay but … this.” He raised a finger up. “And this is a very important part of our marriage. I’m concerned. The way she behaves when I want her … you’d be surprised. It’s as if I’m dirty and irresponsible. In fact, there were times I asked myself if something was wrong with me.”
Some of the people laughed.
“I’m serious.” The man said. “I feel frustrated. I feel rejected.”
Some men nodded their heads to show understanding.
His wife looked shocked.

“I mean … is there anyone sharing my experience? Has anybody here ever been there?” the man looked round at the men.
Five men raised their hands …
… A woman raised her hand and got up. “My case is different. It’s my husband who has lost interest in sex. I don’t know what we can do about that. My needs are not being met.”
The people shouted and laughed.
The woman continued, laughing. “I want us to tackle this issue as well. My husband does not believe in kissing … he says it makes him feel like throwing up, too much saliva and so on.”
A man exclaimed. “Oh my God!”
All of them laughed again.
Still laughing, she said, “In fact, we stopped kissing a long time ago. So, it’s not only about a man’s needs, a woman’s needs may also not be met.”
One of the men asked her husband, “What do you have to say for yourself?”
He laughed as he got up.“There’s no cause for alarm. It’s just that in recent times, I’ve been under a considerable amount of pressure and I just don’t feel like it.
(Excerpts from the novel OH BABY!)
One of the questions I’m often asked by married couples at marriage seminars is “How often or how many times in a week should married couples make love?”
As I pointed out in the novel Oh Baby, giving excuses when it comes to sex is not only a woman’s thing, some men also give excuses. And as I have said a number of times before and wrote in the novel, sex was God’s idea, not a man’s or satan’s idea, even though some people because of their misunderstanding of God’s purpose for sex have perverted, commercialized and even redefined it to suit their purpose. Sex is good and right but only in marriage. It is not dirty, it is an important part of marriage, it is biblical. Outside marriage or before marriage, it is wrong and destructive and could lead to very serious problems.
To get the correct answer to this question, we need to turn to the word of God. The Bible doesn’t say the number of times a married couple should have sex in a week but it does say that couples should come together regularly (have sex) and that if they will not have sex for a reason, it should be by agreement.
2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1Corinthians 7:2,3,5)
These verses are saying, “Don’t forgo sex! Continue to have sexual relations with your spouse! Satisfy your spouse!” In other words, a spouse has sexual responsibilities or duties in marriage. (verse 3) If a person does not want sex, then the person should not go into marriage, when you get married, you have signed up for sex. Sex in marriage should be regular; staying away from sex should not be regular, it has to be agreed upon by the couple involved and should be for a short time.

The Bible also makes us know that our bodies belong to our spouses.
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. (1Corinthians 7:4)
The woman’s body does not belong to her alone but to her husband also, and vice-versa. This tells us that sex should not be given by a spouse as a reward or bribe, neither should it be withheld to punish a spouse.
In love-making, communication, love and compromise are important. If one spouse wants sex, the other spouse should yield as pointed out in verse 4, and if for a good reason one spouse does not want it, the other spouse should understand and yield, but of course, again, abstaining should be for a short time so that they don’t open their marriage to satan.
Protect your marriage. Temptations can come in as a result of lack of sex or not enough sex, sexual frustrations and hurt feelings. To keep temptations and immoralities of all kinds away, God created marriage, where a man will have his own wife, a woman will have her own husband, have regular sex and fulfill their sexual desires. (1Corinthians 7:2)

I asked some people how often they think married couples should make love in a week. Some said everyday. (As you must have guessed, most of these people were men) People said different things but most of them thought two to four times should be fine. The simple truth is “The more regularly a married couple makes love, the stronger their marriage tie.” Regular sex brings joy, confidence, intimacy and a connection between a man and his wife. A good sex life can hold a marriage together. And so, how many times? Let it be to you according to your faith!

Dear friends and followers,what do you think-post your comments.

Cynthia Morgan says her sex appeal is her selling point

Cynthia Morgan has been able to capture the attention of the industry with songs like ‘Don’t Break My Heart’ and ‘Lead Me On' in the space of a few years. Today, she is one of the most sought-after artistes in Nigeria. ‎ 

Signed to Jude Okoye‘s Northside Music Inc., the dance hall act has revealed that her sex appeal and stage craft have played a huge part in propelling her brand. Asked how she came about her sex appeal in a recent interview with City people, the German Juice singer said: ‘Its in built, I didn’t go anywhere to learn, its the whole package that comes with a talented person. If you are ready for the industry, you must have a total package. ‘Aside from music, a lot want to see you perform, they want to see the sex appeal, and you have to be believable, it is inbuilt talent and craft in me and that is my selling point.’.


I would say Cynthia morgan sure got the freak in her, whaya say?