Saturday, 1 August 2015

Father defiles 11yr old daughter in Benue



A 40-year-old man has been dragged to a Makurdi High Court sitting in Benue State, for allegedly having sexual intercourse with his 11yr old daughter, reports Vanguard.
It was learned that the randy father was arrested after a neighbor who heard the cries of the girl, sneaked into his compound and caught him in the act.
The neighbour raised an alarm and other residents gathered and arrested him. On interrogation, the little girl said her father had been engaging her in repeated sexual abuse whenever her mother was away from home.
On taking the girl for medical examination, it was discovered that the girl had been defiled several times.
The randy man has been ordered remanded at the Makurdi Federal Priosn by the presiding judge, Cecilia Bakara, where he will be till September 29, when the case will be heard.

Protect your kids from sexual predators

Thursday, 30 July 2015

Loving a woman better...episode1



From time immemorial, men have fought wars, waged battles all for the money,power and exotic women.

We all want to shower our woman with gifts, give them deposits on their accounts and be the one they yearn for-while all of this will make a women respect and admire you…yet we still wonder sometimes


Does she really love me?
Am I the only one she got?

We all want our woman to be our everything, just like Patoranking sang in his current hit single “my woman, my everything”…but are you her everything?
While making a woman love you might varies, based on factors we won’t be discussing here,  there are some certain things that will make a woman love you better.

     
    
   (1)   Give her good quality time 
We all can be unavoidably absent sometimes, yet when we find time to be with our loved ones, it    should be quality time. Quality time means no distractions, no pinging’s, just you and your woman at unity and one with the universe. Use this time to conversate, relate  and stimulate. Talk about things you both desire, laugh, open up to her to see your sensitivity. When you talk, gaze into her eyes and make her feel beautiful. Every  Woman want to feel like the  “one”, that special one you can’t live without


(2)   Tell her about your plans, make it clear enough for her
Even when a woman loves you, there is a standard she cannot go below. In some cases a woman can suspend her love for you when she sees you cannot give her the type of life she desires.
It is better to make her understand from the start how things are, and state your plans and how you want to go about reaching them. If she does not clearly understand your plans, she will not know where to fit herself in your life and future- this certainly will bring about draw backs.
 

(3)   When you are alone with your woman, get up close
Modern day women are free, they want to express and feel love. Time have changed, if you don’t make your women feel love and excited she definitely will want to look for it elsewhere, even if she does not-she certainly is not satisfied.
Even when she acts like she is not in the mood, it is your duty to put her in the mood. Set the mood right, prepare her a nice dish, get some chocolates, good fruit wine and soothing music.

Try to find out her “keys” and turn her on.

Seems some modern men have not discovered the importance of romance and  sex for the modern woman. In todays world we are bombarded by DSTV and internet, telemundo and so many love series, sexual scenes are displayed across our faces each day, naturally we are driven by what we see, what is prevalent around us will most likely influence us…hence it is natural for the woman to be more sexually inclined.
Every woman will of course try to show modesty, it is your duty to break the ice, and make her melt in the ocean of your loving.

I need to go for a walk now, we will continue this wonderful discussion in our next post.
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Keep the fire burning.

Dr Rocs.





Protect your child from sexual predators, pay attention to your children.

Hello friends and followers, hope this month of July brought good tidings and good health to you and your loved ones.

The issue of "cradle robbers" and sexual predators in our society is taking a huge dimension.

Some followers of this blog shared their experiences, they asked that their identities be protected.

Mrs Alabi(not real name) is a happy mother of two twin girls, she stays in a quiet neighborhood around Obalende Lagos, Mrs Alabi works as a nurse, and her husband is an offshore worker who is hardly around-hence the family decided to bring a nephew to live with them to take care of the house and kids in their absence.

Things have been going well,with no issues till when the girls turned 5 years old,at first she noticed the way the girls always touch their privates, she thought it was weird,but didn't really give it second thoughts.

One day when she was on leave and was bathing them, she noticed one of her daughters rubbing her Vagina, she was alarmed and smacked her so hard, the daughter screamed "mommy why are you beating me, uncle Taiwo always rubs it for us" the mom was alarmed- she quickly called her husband who took permission and rushed back home the next day, when they confronted him, he denied- it took the intervention of an elder in the community who threatened to involve a spiritualist so he swear an oath, this is when Taiwo broke down and confessed, he has been defiling these kids since they turned 4yrs old-its just sad the mom and dad were not paying enough attention.

so sad....

please here are guidelines to help you protect your child from sexual predators;
 (1) Always talk to your children, instruct them not to allow anyone touch their private parts and to tell you when anyone does.

(2) Always be around to watch your kids grow each day, never be too busy not to create time for your kids.

(3) Give your kids audience whenever they want to speak to you, be easily approachable- some parents shun their kids and treat them like pests, this will make your kids afraid to approach you for any issue they are dealing with. kids are smarter than we think,listen to them-and watch their body movements around relatives and neighbors.

Dear followers, and readers we will keep posting more tips and stories on this series, this is a serious issue on our society-kindly send us your comments and contributions on what you feel about the prevalence of "cradle robbers" and child molesters in our society.

Pls send your comments and stories to lekkidatingandsex@yahoo.com